What should and should not be leashed?

RosaM68 · #21 07-23-2008, 07:37 PM

That's cool Hockey about the hair pulling method. I always used the MOM look, lol.

And about the deodorant: I heard years ago that if you put deodorant on right after you shave it will eventually give you cancer later in life.

Tracy · #22 07-23-2008, 07:45 PM

Thanks Rosa....now I have something else to worry about

kittykat · #23 07-23-2008, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by hockeyandDMB

My daughter never wandered.... she was always under foot. Very shy and very weary. My son is the exact opposite.... talks to anyone, anywhere. Strikes up conversations with anyone who will listen.

My secret trick for keeping him nearby and behaved..... I keep his hair cut short ...but not too short. I literally tell the barber to leave enough for me to grab. I use my entire hand on his head and grab a fist full and hold it until he corrects his behavior. (this is usually pretty darn quick b/c it really hurts) The bonus is that it doesn't even look like I'm hurting him. I can do it right in front of people and they are none the wiser but my son immediately knows he better stop whatever it is he is doing.

It's a cool trick for all Mom's of young boys.... I highly recommend the "subtle hair pull". Now that he's 8, I don't ever have to do this... if I even make like I'm going to... he stops.

LOL dont worry Hockey, im 32 and my mom still pulls my hair....

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RosaM68 · #24 07-23-2008, 07:57 PM

Is there anything that we don't have to worry about???

bl0ndie87 · #25 07-23-2008, 08:43 PM

I'm going to have to go with DeCurlyGirl on this one, however I can see where many of you are coming from in the cases of autism or extreme misbehavior. A friend of mine "leashes" her child with the monkey backpack thing pictured above...I can't deny the fact that every time I see it, I cringe a little. I don't have children yet, so I know a lot of you have experienced the panic of losing your children in public or having them stray, which I have not...however, I just don't deem it completely necessary...I think a stroller is a lot more humane and the child still has the freedom to go out and about, but be under your watch at the same time. Personally, I would never use one on my child (if I had one). Just my opinion.

motherof3 · #26 07-23-2008, 11:33 PM

Ok, first the leash thing. I bought one when I was hugely pregnant with my son and my daughters were 10 mo and 2 yrs. My oldest started try to run off when I went to a store. She loved hiding in clothes racks. I put it on her once and felt so bad I never did it again. I just started taking her out of the store and whooping her butt. She stopped. lol
Then a few years ago I had a parent bring in one of those monkey things for one of my daycare kids. I never used it. He learned very quickly to hold my hand or the stroller/cart depending where we were. All I had to do is the first few times keep my hand over his and keep reminding him when he tried to take his hand away. It was for his safety. I never had problems with him running off, but his parents swore they couldn't take him anywhere w/out that stupid leash.
And as for the hair pull Hockey, I figured out years ago with my son that where his ear goes , the boy follows. I haven't had to use that in years because he's 9 now, but your right, they learn pretty quick! lol When he knew I was done telling him to do something and I came after him, he's put his hands over his ears. That didn't work well for him either. lol

Pythoness · #27 07-24-2008, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by hockeyandDMB

That must be very hard. I didn't realize so much was taken so literally with Autistic children.

Oh yes. Their thinking is very concrete. They have trouble with abstract concepts, including idioms and metaphors.

My friend knew a guy in college, in her dorm, who is autistic. When she first met him, he told her that if he started to repeat bits of information to her or annoy her in any way, she would have to tell him, "Stop. I've heard this before. I don't want to hear it again, it's annoying," and he would. But try to tell him any other way, like by heavily sighing, rolling the eyes, or any other body language, no matter how extreme, that said, "I'm fed up with this," and he wouldn't notice. You had to tell him, in plain words.

They were in the common room talking with a large group of dorm residents one evening when this kid blurted out some outrageous fact about something, and someone else said, "Get out of here!" as in, "No way!" or "Holy cow!"

He got up and left the room.

Luckily, autistics also don't tend to be affronted by someone telling them "Stop, I've heard this ten times before and it's annoying now." They just treat it like neutral information.

MetalBrent · #28 07-24-2008, 09:39 AM

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Autistic kids have a habit of running out of doors and into streets. You really can't, at some point, trust them not to. They just don't understand the danger (and not understanding danger, not showing a respect of traffic, fire, and heights, is an indicator of autism.

My wife works with autistic and downs kids, they do have a tendency to run off even at home they sometimes dissapear into the neighborhood when the parents are cooking, cleaning, showering or sleeping. Lots of their parents have been using an GPS ankle bracelet that links to their cell phone with good results. And im sure that if anyone suggested teathering their children they would probly break that A holes jaw

On the other hand, I'm all for parents leashin their kids between 12 and 17

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Pythoness · #29 07-24-2008, 10:23 AM

Well I'm not sure about the people your wife works with, but the way I look at it is like this:

A GPS is all fine and well, but it's not a magic force field that will prevent my child from getting hit in the street. Likewise, unless it is implanted under their skin like a microchip for a dog, any pedophile that picks them up can simply remove it and leave it on the side of the road.

I'd rather have my kid attached to me than either of the two other scenarios, and if someone suggested I leash my kid, I would not think they were an a-hole or break their jaw. I'd think it was a very valid solution, considering the circumstances.

I have no problem leashing my dog to keep him safe, and, as much as love my dog, I love my son more. Why *wouldn't* I afford him the same protection? Just because he's human I ought to take unnecessary risks? I think not.

Roogle · #30 07-24-2008, 10:23 AM

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On the other hand, I'm all for parents leashin their kids between 12 and 17

12 and 17 Is a great time to leash them up! Only unleash them to go to school and work.

I do like the GPS idea though. I might have to do that to my 16 year old daughter.

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