Parenting Help?

DrexelRacer · #21 08-13-2008, 04:41 PM

Good luck on you quest. hope everything works out.

I know I was a p.i.t.a. kid growing up and what kept me in line is my dad threatened to put my head though the wall. And I knew he would do it so I stayed in line lol

arudawakening · #22 08-13-2008, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by DrexelRacer

I know I was a p.i.t.a. kid growing up

Weren't we all?

Looks like you turned out ok, thanks for the luck though, I'll need it!

Bada Bing · #23 08-13-2008, 04:47 PM

Sorry. I have absolutely no advice. I'll leave it up to the other experts here.

*walks away muttering thank God I don't have kids*

DrexelRacer · #24 08-13-2008, 04:48 PM

LoL I guess I turned out ok, but I can still be a major p.i.t.a., cause sometimes I can be very stuborn and hard-headed

kittykat · #25 08-13-2008, 04:56 PM

well my dad would sit me and my brother on the couch and lecture us for 6 or 7 hours over and over again,by the end of one of his famous talks i wanted to be a NUN..

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Crabby · #26 08-13-2008, 05:08 PM

I've tried three times to make some suggestions but by the time I post it, it tells me I'm not allowed. Last time was a PM...I have no idea if it got there. Grrrrr

arudawakening · #27 08-13-2008, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Crabby

I've tried three times to make some suggestions but by the time I post it, it tells me I'm not allowed. Last time was a PM...I have no idea if it got there. Grrrrr

Sorry Crabby

no PM either.

RosaM68 · #28 08-13-2008, 05:54 PM

Thanks for the update Aruda. Hang in there.

Decent · #29 08-13-2008, 09:03 PM

My oldest son was exactly like that. Nothing phased him. He would be content just staring at a wall rather than do what he was told. It was like he totally disconnected. He was a loner, had a hard time making friends, very shy, when he was a few years younger, he cried about everything, stopped when he hit around 11 or 12, he also had a night-time bathroom problem until he was almost 12. He was very quiet, and he would watch anything on TV as long as it was something other than snow. When he got older he developed anger issues, serious ones. I was told he had ADD, but not the hyperactive kind, the other kind, Inattentive ADD. I'm not big on labels, but I really wish I would have had him tested/observed by professionals when he was younger as it may have helped. By the grace of GOD he turned out ok.

Anyway, most people think of ADD and they think of kids bouncing off the walls, but this form of ADD is the opposite. Here's a page that explains it. You may want to just consider maybe having him checked:

Symptoms of Attention Deficit Disorder (ADHD) - Psych Central

daveindelaware · #30 08-14-2008, 03:38 PM

I have three younger children (8.5, 7, 5.5) and they're all VERY intelligent (straight A's in school, brilliant product ideas, etc)....

They come from a "broken" home, in that their Mommy and I are divorced. Sometimes it seems that each of our houses has different rules, even though they don't. I truly believe it's the discipline, "threats," and follow-up (or not) of those "threats" (like clean your room or else) that seems to be off balance at each place of residence.

My kid's room is clean at my house, but at their Mommy's apartment, they're trashed. Granted, they live w/ Mommy most of the time, with me getting visitation. But still....

She claims that there's no room to put things at her apartment, and they have too much crap. While I agree that's true, it's still necessary to get the kids to clean their rooms when all there is from the door to the bed is a minefield of toys, papers, shoes, etc that they have to walk on. Many a foot has been cut or poked w/ toys on the floor!!! And it's not like the kids can't pick and choose what to get rid of: they did that at my house and filled three Xerox boxes with unwanted books and toys!

My Ex has threatened to give some of their favorite toys away to charity if they don't clean their rooms. She's had her boyfriends help clean their rooms for them, where they just had to help w/ the upkeep of cleanliness. She has spanked and taken desserts away from them not cleaning their rooms....

Yeah, OK. That all worked for about 5 minutes.

My kids don't care about spankings anymore. They don't care about no dessert (they're becoming more health nuts anyway).

Anyway, I told them what my fiancee's Dad did to her when she was young and refused to clean her room:

Her Dad waited until she went to school, then put ALL her toys and books and music and everything that was in her room into boxes and threw them away. Yeah, as in "into the garbage."

Yeah, he got rid of ALL of her stuff, as a punishment for disobedience. He never yelled. Or spanked her. Or anything. Just got rid of all of her stuff in her room since she refused to clean it up. Then, she had NOTHING left to make the room dirty and messy with.

So, the next time your kids refuse to clean their rooms, tell them about that. Maybe that'll change their tune. I'm sure they'd hate to lose their games, books, toys, and everything.

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