From A's to C's! WTH?? - Page 2

Roogle · #21 11-20-2008, 09:51 AM

I went from A's to C's when i moved to high school. My hormones shot up like a rocket. All i could think about was boobs and beer. (Kind of like now, but i know how to handle those thoughts) We go through so much through our transition to adulthood.

The "real" world isn't in our nature, so children go through a lot to acclimate.

kittykat · #22 11-20-2008, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Roogle

I went from A's to C's when i moved to high school. My hormones shot up like a rocket. All i could think about was boobs and beer. (Kind of like now, but i know how to handle those thoughts) We go through so much through our transition to adulthood.

The "real" world isn't in our nature, so children go through a lot to acclimate.

That's ok Roogle i thought this thread was about boob jobs!

Decent · #23 11-20-2008, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by TwinsForever

I have a good relationship with his homeroom teacher who also is the teacher where he is getting the C. We have been in contact since interim grades were released and I first saw the C. (He had other lower grades but did correct them before the end of the marking period.)

Most of the problem is coming from him not handing in his work. Which is amazing to me because he can do the work and does the work but then doesn't hand it in. I read his agenda as much as I can and I ask every day - did you do all your homework? Do you have any tests to study for? Any projects due?, etc., etc.

I can't hold his hand forever, he has to learn to be independent and follow through on his assignments. It will only get harder as he advances in school. I take a very 'hands off' approach to their school work. I will help them but I won't do it for them.

Some part of me says that he needs to fail in order to learn but on the other hand I want him to do the work that he is capable of. Does that make sense?

Where's the 'parent handbook' for all this crap??!!

oh wow, yeah, had that problem with my son. did the work, didnt hand it in. Once he did the work, he felt like he was 'done'. I stressed the three parts of a homework assignment, 1. Writing it down. 2. doing the homework 3. Handing it in.

Curly's right, definitely talk to your kid first, I should have said that, I figured you already had though, thats all. sorry.

Just a suggestion, from my own experience. I couldnt just sit my kid down and talk to him. Never worked. BUT, when we were doing stuff together, playing a game, etc, it kept them distracted enough to be honest and answer questions a lot easier.

Joe Walther · #24 11-20-2008, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by TwinsForever

I have a good relationship with his homeroom teacher who also is the teacher where he is getting the C.

I read your original post and it gave me the impression that he has gone from all A's and B's to numerous, if not all, C's. I read the above and it gave me the impression that he's on the list for ONE C.

If so, one C out of how many subjects? Which subject? What's his attitude toward that subject?

There is no parent manual. Several people have attempted to write one but they're mostly in the dark like the rest of us. In fact, some of the most authoritative books written on child rearing have been written by people with no children.

It reminds me of the Pope. Having taken vows NOT to participate, he wants to make the rules for those who DO participate.

Anyway, good luck. Those that offer you the advice of talking with your son FIRST are spot on. The only thing I'd add to that advice is for you to make sure that you LISTEN to him before you go any farther up the line.

Regards,

Joe Walther

TwinsForever · #25 11-20-2008, 11:47 AM

When interim grades where released half way through the semester he had 2 C's and a D. You can imagine my surprise when I so those.

He did correct the D and the other C so I was happy about that. I just heard from his teacher and she told me he was one point away from a B (English) because of missed assignments.

So at least I know the problem. We will go easy on him this marking period. Most likely I will take his phone as soon as he gets home. Because of the bully situation he has to have it with him during the day. But when he's around us he won't need it. This will also make him concentrate on his homework instead of who's texting him.

I appreciate everyone's advice. This parenting stuff is not easy! Ahhhh, to be single and child free again, shhhh.... don't wake me up!