2nd grader troubles in school

Panama Girl · #11 04-30-2008, 11:56 PM

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You know how Grandma's can be hehe

omg omg omg FLASHBACK!!!

*has flashback to playing with a new tea-cart set given by late Grandma*

I remember it had these tiny utensils painted silver and a little hard-plastic cake decorated with tiny dark pink roses...

I must have been two and a half, because it was before my parents moved us to the US when Dad got a job here; she died when I was almost five.

Damn I miss her. I wonder what she'd think of how I turned out.

hockey · #12 05-01-2008, 03:26 AM

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I give Haleigh a bowl of grits before school every day.

grits??

max1 · #13 05-01-2008, 05:30 AM

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Originally Posted by hockeyandDMB

grits??

lol, what ya don't like some grits...."all up in here?"

max1 · #14 05-01-2008, 05:46 AM

ok, heres my two cents that will more then likely piss a buncha youse all off. I think for the most part the ADD etc. issues we are seeing are the result of lazy uninformed parents and teachers and to a lesser extent society. Now I'm not saying that that describes any of you folks, but if you do not have a CONSISTENT way of dealing with punishment (either time out or whippin an ass) you are doing a disservice to your child. Kids understand constants. Now let me say I'm not pointing at any of you guys, but it's so easy to listen to a teacher when your a new parent, and they say things like "well they will grow out of it" thats a load of crap. We are the one who guide our children and they look to us for that so don't be so quick to listen to the teacher, they are not MD's. When a teacher is saying that he/she is lazy in my opinion. Then just look at it from a parents point of view, do you disapline the child in public? If not why? embarrassed? trust me the kid will pick up on this and use it against you. On top of that you have the dick heads who call the police if you bust your kids ass in public, you can't win. All I'm saying is LONG before you medicate the child try all other things at your disposal, diet is important some children can't eat or drink red dyes or some preservatives don't sugar them all up and expect them to be calm.

3lilgems · #15 05-01-2008, 05:47 AM

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lol, what ya don't like some grits...."all up in here?"

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grits??

hehe believe it or not she LOVES grits. shred up some cheese in there and BAM she is a happy girl. BUT won't go anywhere near a bowl of oatmeal!!! I sware i didn't drop her on her head lol

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Tracy · #16 05-01-2008, 06:39 AM

You hit the nail on the head Max when it comes to disciplining kids in public. There are many times when it has been necessary to discipline my kids in public, but I just couldn't do it. To be frank, I'm just too scared now a days that some dumbass would report me to social services and take away my kids. I'm very very very unlikely to spank my kids, but if they are doing something that is dangerous to themselves or it is just WAY over the line.....I'm sorry, sometimes it's just necessary, but how are you going to do that when some noosy guy out there sees you and will in a second get on his cell phone and call 911 and say you are abusing your kids?

IrishTam · #17 05-01-2008, 09:25 AM

My oldest son (who's 16) was diagnosed with PDD (Pervasive Developmental Disorder) when he was in preschool. Which was incredibly scary because PDD symptoms can either resolve or manifest into diagnosable Autism. Luckily, Dillon's resolved (for the most part). He still has some issues he's dealing with (fine motor skills & eye contact issues), but he's mainstreamed into the regular classroom, is a high school sophomore and an honor roll student!

I guess what I'm trying to say is not to get too overly frustrated or sad about your daughter's issues right now - every child is different and develops at a different pace. Some kids are more easily distracted (as are some adults)! Just remember that you're your daughter's best advocate with school - keep that communication with the teacher going - it means a LOT to the teachers when a parent wants to be super-involved with their child's education. It's a team effort between the parent & the school. Most of all, don't give up on her or let them label her... remember, she's more than just a "hyper 2nd grader"... she's a growing & developing child - the stuff that's going on now in her life helps define her as the person she'll become later!!

I think if we all (parents & teachers) just accepted our kids better for who they are, and not try to pigeon-hole them into what's defined as "normal" or fit them into some statistic or graph, we'd all be less stressed & a happier society in general!!

max1 · #18 05-01-2008, 04:15 PM

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It's a team effort between the parent & the school. Most of all, don't give up on her or let them label her... remember, she's more than just a "hyper 2nd grader"... she's a growing & developing child - the stuff that's going on now in her life helps define her as the person she'll become later!! :)

I agree 100%

I think if we all (parents & teachers) just accepted our kids better for who they are, and not try to pigeon-hole them into what's defined as "normal" or fit them into some statistic or graph, we'd all be less stressed & a happier society in general!!

I'm always afraid when someone uses that comment "who they are" I think thats what has lead us down this path. A child is a child, he/she is a product of their environment so that being said if you want a child who shows no respect then do not correct him/her when they are being "who they are" and calling Ms. so and so a poopyhead that is "learned behavior" and kids are good at it. My point is is I believe that children want consistency and disciplines in their life, it's comfortable they understand it they want someone to be there for them as they try to make their way through this world.

motherof3 · #19 05-01-2008, 06:08 PM

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I'm always afraid when someone uses that comment "who they are" I think thats what has lead us down this path. A child is a child, he/she is a product of their environment so that being said if you want a child who shows no respect then do not correct him/her when they are being "who they are" and calling Ms. so and so a poopyhead that is "learned behavior" and kids are good at it. My point is is I believe that children want consistency and disciplines in their life, it's comfortable they understand it they want someone to be there for them as they try to make their way through this world.

Max let me just say that I respect your opinion, but as a parent of 2 kids that have been diagnosed as ADHD, I'm in some ways insulted by your posts. To me it feels like your saying that my kids are not disciplined or I'm not being consistent with them. My kids are reprimanded when they need it and trust me if we're in public I don't care. Inappropriate is inappropriate regardless of where we are (actually in public can be better because it's more of an embarrassment factor than a swat on the butt hurting). I am very involved with my kids and they are very active. I do monitor what they eat and drink too. We do have a set schedule and bed times. School work is done at either the desk or at the kitchen table with no music, TV or other distractions allowed until everyone is done. We have used a white noise machine to help with concentration which did help my oldest. ADHD is a real condition that effects many more aspects of a kids life than just school. And as a parent to try everything I can think of (I even took courses to learn more about the problems and how to cope with them with my kids) to help my kids and STILL they come home frustrated thinking something is wrong with them, it is really upsetting that someone would think it's all because I don't discipline my kids or inform myself. I know you said that your comments weren't meant to anyone specifically, but it's hard enough when you go through this every day with your kids to then have to feel like I'm being judged as a parent too. And it's not just you, I get a lot of the same kind of stuff from their own father. He sees them for regular visitation, but I'm the one with them 95% of the time and I'm the one that has to make the hard decisions in their lives then help them deal with it. All I'm saying is please think about the parents that struggle with this day in and day out before you make a comment again about lazy uninformed parents. And as far as teachers, not once has any of their teachers recommended meds for my kids. I've worked very closely with every single teacher they have had and it's never been on their advise or input that I've felt the need to medicate my kids.

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